Hi Darling….

You can’t change anyone….well, the truth is you can’t change anyone ELSE. You can choose to change yourself.

Are you in a relationship that doesn’t offer what you want? Ask yourself….why are you staying…what’s the payoff? Now, I’m not advocating “leaving” a relationship. I am hopelessly in favor of long-term relationships….
What I am saying, is look at YOURSELF, ask yourself the important questions. What is missing? What am I just putting up with? Why?
And then decide if your answers line up with who you are.

When I finally left the marriage I was in for 30 years (and I acknowledge we both left) I realized it had never moved to the next level.
What do I mean by this? The relationship had not grown to true intimacy. There is no blame here, perhaps we were both incapable of doing this at the time. Without that growth towards intimacy, true sharing, being transparent, and nourishing each other in loving ways I don’t feel there can be a happy, lasting, loving connection. Just my opinion!!!

What I am saying, and what I am asking you to ask yourself is – what do you bring to a relationship? Not, what’s in it for me?
With the best of intentions, we go into relationship with a vision of what we think it is, or what we want it to be. Few people are conscious enough to truly identify what their expectations are, no less discuss them. Whether you know it or not, you have thoughts about what you want in a partnership and expectations that you are going to get them. And perhaps have never even stated them to your partner.

Take sometime to think this over, dive deep into yourself and start to create a healthy, happy, loving life.