You have been wounded, suffered the pain of divorce. You wonder is it possible to find love again? Let me tell you, it is!!
I understand it can be tremendously challenging. Breakups are never easy. Finding love after a divorce can seem even harder. It’s not just the process of getting back into the dating game… that’s difficult enough, it’s that your heart and mind can create barriers that make the searching process feel like walking through quicksand.
In the wake of a divorce, there can be damage left behind… where once joy, trust, and future dreams resided. This can make finding love more difficult for the divorced person compared to a single or unmarried individual. Having love and then losing it can make a man or woman feel less confident that they will ever find a life partner again.
Whether you initiated the divorce or your partner, there is a necessary time for healing before you are ready to date again.
If you try to jump back into the dating scene by skipping the grief process, it will not work in the long run. You need to have some quiet time, acknowledging and coming to terms with the loss of your marriage. Some find healing through therapy, reading, or yoga. No matter the method, your mind, body, and spirit need to feel connected and healthy again. When you have taken this time for yourself, then it is time to begin searching for a new love again.
To find meaningful love after divorce, some re-enter the dating world carrying a lot of emotional baggage. One may think they are hiding it, but until you can truly let go any anger, hurt or resentment, it actually is there for all to see.
It’s also natural to feel a bit skeptical about love after losing a marriage. You must be in a place of letting go of any bitterness so as not to build a wall around yourself.
When you are ready, re-introduce yourself into the world… slowly. Get out in life and enjoy yourself, whatever you are doing. Try something new that you always thought you would be interested in. Don’t necessarily look for love… let it find you… but love yourself. Take care of your personal needs, get your sleep, keep your living space clean.
I promise you there is love for you… Love Yourself First.